As of this morning, the move date is set - October 29, a week from this Thursday. The car service has an SUV and driver that can handle the NY-DC round trip that day, so that's what locks it in. Other elements are now in place - J/2, the night attendant, who can travel with us, and the nursing home, which is ready to accept him this afternoon.
Am still trying to contact the landlord and see about the move-out options. I have yet to arrange to get the cats removed and boarded, but that'll be easy. And in a moment I have to write to Dr. B, thank her for looking after my father for the past year and change, and ask her for a sedative that we can use to dose him that morning and, ideally, move him as freight.
Tomorrow I'll travel up to New York - the last routine visit, I suppose - and tell E what we're doing, and that her job will end in a week. I let her go a year ago, when we switched to Medicaid home care, so it's not like I haven't fired her before. But it's still hard.
Actually it's all hard. But the steps are getting done, which is all I can ask at this stage.
Alan, one foot in front of the other, one task at a time and somehow it gets done. I'm sure it will all go smoothly, as my mother's move did. It was very difficult emotionally for both of us, but now, two weeks into the new life, she is very active, much more aware and "with it" than she was at home and I'm much less obsessed with her condition and starting to enjoy my freedom from fear. I do hope it all works out for you as well. Best wishes, Cathy
Posted by: Cathy | October 20, 2009 at 07:53 PM